Psychotherapy Blog
Insights on Therapy, Relationships, and Emotional Life
I’m Andrea Crapanzano, Ph.D., a San Francisco psychologist and psychodynamic psychotherapist. Here I write about relationships, identity, men’s mental health, young adulthood, LGBTQ+ experiences, and the recurring emotional patterns that shape how we understand ourselves and connect with others.
Why Do I Still Feel Like a Child Around My Parents?
Why do you still feel like a child around your parents—even when you’re fully independent?
Why Do I Keep Losing Interest After a Few Dates? A Psychodynamic Perspective on Gay Dating
Why do you keep losing interest after just a few dates, even when someone seems like a great match?
Why You Always Think People Are Mad at You: A Psychodynamic Explanation
Why do you always think people are upset with you—even when there's no evidence?
Why So Many Men Feel Like They Have No Close Friends
Why do so many men feel lonely even when they're surrounded by people?
Why You Overthink Every Conversation After It Happens: A Psychodynamic Explanation
Do you replay conversations long after they've ended?
Why Your Partner Says You're Emotionally Unavailable (Even When You Think You're Trying)
Why does your partner say you're emotionally unavailable when you're trying your best?
Why Being Desired Is Not the Same as Being Known
Can you feel lonely even when people want you?
Why Work Feels Like Your Entire Identity
Does it feel like your career has become your entire identity?
Why Do Compliments Make You Uncomfortable?
Why do some men struggle to accept compliments? Explore the connection between self-worth, confidence, and self-doubt.
Why You Feel Like an Impostor Even When You're Qualified
Why do so many accomplished people secretly worry that they are not as capable as others believe them to be? I
Why Your Partner Keeps Asking for Something You Think You're Already Giving
Why does your partner keep asking for something you genuinely believe you're already giving?
Why Validation Starts Feeling Like a Drug in Gay Male Culture
Why can attention, compliments, sex, or validation feel emotionally powerful one moment—and painfully empty or insufficient the next?